CitySickness
Well-Known Member
Up to my jib-jabs in work here and so can't really post anything coherent, but this has gotten way out of hand, folks.
Everyone go to bed.
Everyone go to bed.
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I guess I've met more queers than you or something. Or just different ones? Uh oh - I said "queers"!
My point is that its just a word, context is everything, acceptability of words changes over time depending on usage... ok that's more than 1 point.
oh and on " On the sexism stuff, I think if people feel uncomfortable or unhappy about something, they should be able to raise it." I agree 100% - you're dead right. But they should try to base these things on the actual facts.
one thing i've always found surprising is the number of people willing to share personal details (e.g. self portraits) online here.It's a gathering of folk. Most are nice. Some are mean. Some like to push boundaries at the expense of other people feelings. Some like to push their feelings at the expense of other people's boundaries. It's goddamn life, not a liberal Mecca. It's great.
That wasn't what I was trying to do.
thumped is like the democrats - divided over their differences, not united over their commonalities like the republicans.This is already about 20 people who probably agree with each other arguing mostly semantics or winding each other up and if I start weighing in I'll be there too.
And to be honest, this is a mostly very liberal place to be so I'm very sceptical about a culture of repressed homosexual silence. Until gay people call the apparent homophobia, latent, active or rampant into question I'm not sure that it's a particularly relevant discussion. Ask Thomas Dunning how he felt when he was a regular poster or something, otherwise it's just assumed insight into a suspicion.
Disclaimer: I am not saying homophobia does not exist on the board but insisting that any use of the word faggot is indicative of a culture of repression is starting the argument where it doesn't need to be started.
by the way, that faggot thing was designed purely to see if i could get a rise out of youse and cos pete is a friend who would see the funny side. why dont you just ignore this shit.
I haven't gone over the whole thread to see what you are responding to in particular
but no one argued with the very possible fact that if women are more likely to be doing the shopping, or at least the 'big' shopping (which is indeed likely), you're more likely to be delayed by a woman.
But that's not the tone of the post that started the thread.
No one argued that everything that was said was misogynistic or homophobic, and I don't think I or anyone else who would be sympathetic to feminism would appreciate being caricatured like that. It's not fair, it's dismissive, and it was not implied by the posts in the thread.
It was not phrased as if it were merely curiosity at the differences in gendered behaviour. And, in fact, whenever that is brought up, it turns into what we have here. So it's okay to attack someone who tries to speak seriously, but it's not okay to point out that flippant remarks, despite their intentions, are not always 'funny' to everyone.
No one doubted that there are tendencies in behaviour that are gendered. I personally think men and women drive equally badly. For example, 'boy racers' are perhaps unfairly targeted when the majority of dangerous driving is less noticeable. They are just easy to spot.
But of course, I'm sure that, since everything I say in relation to gender is twisted around as if I'm some sort of fucking cartoon villain that everyone loves to hate, that will be twisted around, too.
And funny how Pete's personal observations can carry weight,
but if I said something like that (for example, my experiences in talking about gender...), I'd be fucking crucified by the people who run around thinking that their apparent lefty politics give them licence to go around calling people 'faggots'
and assuming that nothing they say or do could possibly be an unfairly hostile comment about another gender simply because they support lefty causes. Saying that it's okay to go around saying things that are blatantly offensive and justifying them because they are funny to you is not a hell of a lot far off prefacing racist bullshit with "I'm not a racist but..."
Of course we should be able to talk about gender, but it turns into a few people trying to talk about things, and a few others just getting immediately pissy and responding to what they think people are saying
, often without reading the posts.
And let's remember that when we're talking on the internet, it's not simply a private chat between two friends. It's a different context.
Aigh?
The point is: people on Thumped have so much invested in their idea of themselves as liberal, forward-thinking creatures that when someone questions whether that's entirely the case, they flip into aggressive defence of their own self-image.
True, but i think most people know the score here.
I really don't think that I'm someone who goes out of their way to be offended by things and I laugh at the most grotesque and inappropriate stuff every day. I've also hung out with LGBT young people who were in the process of coming out while hearing that word every day. It fucks them up a lot and I think that outweighs the humour derived from its use.
It pisses me off and I'm ok with that.
by the way, that faggot thing was designed purely to see if i could get a rise out of youse and cos pete is a friend who would see the funny side. why dont you just ignore this shit.
in case i'm not being 100% clear - i mean "it's just a word and it's the context in which it's used that matters", not "it's just a word sure what harm could it do"3-2 to United. Cunts.
I mean PRICKS.
(PS - 'it's just a word' is LAME Pete)
in case i'm not being 100% clear - i mean "it's just a word and it's the context in which it's used that matters", not "it's just a word sure what harm could it do"
(PS - 'it's just a word' is LAME Pete)
Would you accept "no" as an answer?Agreed. Quoting a Wikipedia article in an attempt to illustrate your point is lamer still. Quoting a Wikipedia article that in fact destroys the point you're trying to make (ie you're not gay, and so you're not exactly reclaiming it for your own purposes) is... what do you think?
Is this a dig at me? Because if Rampz's statement that women take so fucking long to do everything is a 'fact', and nothing I say is anything but lies, then this is all just gone beyond silliness, it's downright abusive.
It seems that the more upset people become by someone raising these things, the narrower their definition of what is acceptable as a 'fact' becomes. It's all very convenient.
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