There was nothing wrong with the sizeist guy except that he really couldn't handle -- I think -- the concept of an adult woman. There's a big difference between fancying one or two very slender ladies because they also happen to be gorgeous, and in putting so much emphasis on body size. I think it says a lot that he was sort uncomfortable with 'normal' sized women, like he can't handle a woman who looks like an adult because he's determined not to pull his emotional ass out of adolescence. Because it wasn't just 'slender' women, it was borderline anorexic women that he thought looked 'good'.
there's a shitty probability that you weren't the only one who dealt with his shit about that, though, right? i have a notion at the moment that the adolescense thing should come with some kind of marker, because it's #1 for 'why stay single' - you're going to fuck up someone else too if you don't. some people really shouldn't be in relationships, or at least need to grow up a lot before they are.
Back on topic though - a lot of the Point of Relationships is just having a partner-in-crime to do fun stuff with all the time, and be there for you when the stuff ain't fun. And to help you carry the grocery shopping and give you massages.
i love this paragraph (and the slightly soppy romantic buzz appearing elsewhere in the thread). partners-in-crime are pretty damn tough to find, though.
When has anyone here was able to do what they liked when they liked? Probably before their 3rd birthday
that's literally true, but there's a difference in how quickly/rashly you can make decisions and who else you have to consider in how you spend your time. in a good relationship, it's worth it and more, etc. and if you have the maturity and security in yourself to maintain your own identity in a relationship, less of an issue, but if you don't or can only do it in conflict, you are going to lose out.
you know what i find really depressing? people who are single but really looking at it as "not in a relationship" and desperately trying to fix that, or at least not being able to be happy without it. i've done it before and beyond being silly, it makes you feel like shit and do stupid things, so i am pleased not to find myself doing it this time.