jane
Well-Known Member
I agree that sexism harms all genders. But in the same way that it can be said that by assuming that looking at pictures of women, or wishing to discuss football are not only exclusively male interests, but that they define manly and encourage stereotyping of what it is to be manly, is also sexist against men I could argue as a woman that I find the shoe shopping and make-up threads to be sexist in that they are promoting a stereotype of womanly behaviour.
Am I to take from your comment that I could or should be considered less of a woman because I chose not to participate in those threads? I don't find the threads offensive but at the same time they don't interest me. Does this not put me in a similar position to a male on thumped who doesn't participate in the 'girls and sports' threads?
The difficulty is that there is a very fine line between rational mutual respect and political correctness gone mad.
No, my point is that generalising about gender is negative in relation to all genders. The difference between the shoe shopping threads and the 'women aren't funny' thread is that shoe shopping, although predominantly discussed here by women, is not a generalisation about men. Someone who doesn't want to talk about shoes is no less a woman than someone who does. Looking at tits is predominantly a thing done by straight men (because most booby mags are aimed at lads), but that doesn't mean all straight men are into it. But looking at shoes is not the same as looking at tits because looking at shoes doesn't actually encourage the objectification that leads to the degradation that sets the stage for sexual violence.
What I'm saying is that to equate shoe shopping with femininity or womanliness or to equate sport-loving with manliness, they are equally negative. Mr Jane hates sport (except international rugby), and it actually bugs him that people expect him to like it, and if he lets on that he doesn't, there's this implied assumption that there's something 'wrong' with him. My point was that not all women like shoes, not all men like sport.
I'm saying that sexism is sexism. Things that are sexist against men are also sexist against women, and vice versa. When generalisations are made about women, there is an implied assumption about men. I wasn't disagreeing with you. I was trying to tease out an argument. Where was the implication that your non-participation in shoe threads makes you less of a woman? What I was saying is actually the opposite of what you seem to be reading into it. If I wasn't clear, I apologise, but my point was absolutely the opposite.