at the risk of stating the obvious, that's a pretty weak excuse. it can be great fun being in a band even if you think the music is pretty cruddy.
as for your larger dilemma:
you're seriously trying to score weirdo women by looking at myspace? and surprised that it's not working? listen, top marks for online-oversharing emotional honesty and all that, but how about you man up, grow a pair, ask a few ladies out in real life and stop whining on the internet? just a thought.
This is my problem. This kind of advice reminds me of the gear advice I see on sites like Harmony Central - most of the advice of what sounds "good" is in a Classic Rock kind of context(for example people that insist effects are superficial, despite the existence of textural guitarists). It's gearing everyone to the same kind of sound. You kinda do that here - maybe I don't just want to be "in a band", maybe
I don't enjoy being in a band unless I'm doing certain kinds of music. In fact I have been in that kind of situation lately, playing music with people.
And the other part is the same kind of thing. I mean, it probably made you feel great typing that. MAN UP. You have someone you can feel better than. Great for you!
However, your remarks are petty much useless. It's basically saying "Jesus why can't you just man up and instantly solve this dilemna you've been trying to solve for a long time!". You're not giving any real advice. You're just being inanely impatient with someone.
There are so many problems with this. First, I don't know any girls I like. Even if I were to be an ass and just go by appearances, I rarely see girls I am particularly attracted to around these parts. I dislike the way most girls present themselves. Second, there's no where to go to meet girls I might like. I'm not a pub person and that's not a good place to go unless you already know people you like.
I've been along to a good few UCC socs, and they either didn't hold my interest or were twats anyway. I've been to a bunch of different pubs, I've been in the comic book shop and the music shops, I've been to a couple of concerts, I've been out at the Jazz weekend, I've been most places I'm aware exist that would be any use to me at this stage.
"Coping on" and "manning up" isn't going to get me out of this situation, at the end of the day you're just trying to homogenise me. What would is knowing exactly where to go or look for people with common interests and how to approach them. I'm sure there is some kind of decent music scene in Cork, on some small level, but it's likely more of a clique than anything and hard to get into - how exactly do you get involved? I was under the impression Cork was a lot more vibrant than it is before I moved here, I moved here for the purpose of it being better than Limerick, so I approached it with the exact opposite of a closed mind. In all fairness I wouldn't have bothered posting unless I was looking for help with this, telling me to just get out and find gigs etc. just brings me back to square one. I don't know much about Cork bands to begin with, but none of them have grabbed my fancy.