Wedding Thread (1 Viewer)

[jane]

Yellow Pack and Dutch Gold.

You should totally have those as your wedding colours.

 

[F. Fred Palakon]

Here jane - have you tried posting on this crazy hen house?

http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/

I'd also recommend http://kvetch.indiebride.com. Almost as good as the Personal Issues forum on boards.ie. Almost.

 

[F. Fred Palakon]

What was everyone else's first dance? Is it common to choose snappy numbers or did most people choose to, like, slow dance?

I've proposed that we have Jay Z - 99 Problems. Yes/yes?

 

[magicbastarder]

before you ask, you can't have a bouncy castle at your wedding. i know someone who tried.

 

[MDR]

We didn't have a free bar at our wedding. Usual options are to have a wine reception when people first get back to the hotel after the service (while bride and groom are doing photos), although we just served tea, coffee and finger food. you can always pay for a round of drinks for the toast, but again that's optional if you're serving wine with the meal (wine - one bottle per two people; 2:1 ratio of red to white).

 

[jane]

me neither, all the weddings I've been to here usually have a free bar before lunch, or up to the toasts and then everyone pays for their own drink.Jane,it's yr day, there are no rights and wrongs,just do whatever you like!

Yah, it's just a bit awkward sometimes because while there are elements that are pretty conventional, overall, we just want a big party where everyone feels comfortable. And yet there's a little discomfort whenever I start to worry about what people generally expect and worry that if I don't do that, people will be disappointed in us.I know it'll be awesome on the day, so I'm just trying to keep that in my head.

We went through the music for the service last night, and that is truly gonna be awesome. Man, oh, man.

 

[jane]

We didn't have a free bar at our wedding. Usual options are to have a wine reception when people first get back to the hotel after the service (while bride and groom are doing photos), although we just served tea, coffee and finger food. you can always pay for a round of drinks for the toast, but again that's optional if you're serving wine with the meal (wine - one bottle per two people; 2:1 ratio of red to white).

This is REALLY good to know. We're doing cocktails before the family lunch and wine and sparkly toast. But yeah, we're not gonna be able to pay for all the drinks all night. We would if we could, though.

And magicbastarder, no bouncy castle? What about getting married in an inflatable bouncy church?

 

[Squiggle]

Uh, I've never been to an Irish wedding with a free bar.

Am I just going to the wrong weddings?

I'm apparently doing absolutely everything wrong. Here's me on the phone to my mammy.

"Am I going nuts? Why do I feel like everyone is passing negative judgement on me?"

She: "It's because they are. That's what people do with weddings. They use it as an open season on you."

Ah no Jane. You're not doing things wrong at all, and that wasn't what I meant. Seriously, there is no right and wrong. It's your day and most of the "traditions" are made up ways to show off. Of course, the best way to avoid comments would be not to discuss it with anyone else and just do whatever feels right to you and to Mr Jane.

If there's a free bar at my wedding, it will be stocked entirely with Yellow Pack Cola and cans of Dutch Gold.

Maybe I just get invited to all the right weddings... not sure. I suppose it depends largely on the size of the wedding and the people being invited, as well as the other costs involved.

 

[Wobbler]

I'm not having a free bar at mine. No way.

 

[sweetoblivion]

Jane this is all so exciting!

At my friend's wedding, they did nearly all of it themselves and it was bloody fantastic. They (and some friends) cooked ALL the food (!!) which was delicious, had handmade menus and place cards, Martin (the groom) was the DJ (via his laptop), they had a chocolate fountain and the most wonderful tear-jerking speeches (both of them made a speech) ever. Plus a beautiful humanist ceremony where we all cried! If/when I get married, if it's half as good as theirs I'll be delighted. It was really special.

Anywho my point was - with regard to wedding favours, they had a little chinese take-away style box filled with fortune cookies. Each cookie had the same fortune: "Stop looking - happiness is right beside you." It was the message they'd gotten in a fortune cookie when they went on their first date. Now THAT is a wedding favour!

 

[F. Fred Palakon]

before you ask, you can't have a bouncy castle at your wedding. i know someone who tried.

Yes you can!

 

[Pantone247]

Uh, I've never been to an Irish wedding with a free bar.

me neither, if I had I'd still be there

 

[magicbastarder]

And magicbastarder, no bouncy castle? What about getting married in an inflatable bouncy church?

apparently they cannot get insurance for supply of bouncy castles at events where drink is being served, and were also worried about high heels.

 

[Diddles]

I'd also recommend http://kvetch.indiebride.com. Almost as good as the Personal Issues forum on boards.ie. Almost.

This is fucking gold! Am loving the horror stories. Should keep me entertained for the rest of the day. .|..|

My Jack and Jill was a disaster. We ended up taking it over, it ended up in our back yard and destroyed the house. My sister tried to steal money from it and was caught by the whole family. She quit as my maid of honor three days before the wedding. My MIL left only three hours into the wedding after changing the song she danced to with my husband, clearing out a good 25% of the bar tab and asking the DJ to play music so she could be the first one to dance, so she danced while we were all eating! Then she left to gamble at a local casino because she said she felt compelled to. Since then she has asked my husband not to have kids with me and to rethink what he has done.

 

[jane]

I've proposed that we have Jay Z - 99 Problems. Yes/yes?

DOUBLE YES.

We thought about something like "You Give Love A Bad Name", but went with Bruce instead.

 

[jane]

Jane this is all so exciting!

At my friend's wedding, they did nearly all of it themselves and it was bloody fantastic. They (and some friends) cooked ALL the food (!!) which was delicious, had handmade menus and place cards, Martin (the groom) was the DJ (via his laptop), they had a chocolate fountain and the most wonderful tear-jerking speeches (both of them made a speech) ever. Plus a beautiful humanist ceremony where we all cried! If/when I get married, if it's half as good as theirs I'll be delighted. It was really special.

Anywho my point was - with regard to wedding favours, they had a little chinese take-away style box filled with fortune cookies. Each cookie had the same fortune: "Stop looking - happiness is right beside you." It was the message they'd gotten in a fortune cookie when they went on their first date. Now THAT is a wedding favour!

That's so sweet, *I'm* nearly crying. Sounds absolutely brilliant.

Not sure if we're going to manage wedding favours, but you never know. My cousin is coming over early, so we'll have a bit more help then.

As for the night we met, this is what I looked like:



And he still asked me out. On our first date, I drank a bar dry and then insisted I can make the best Sidecar in town, and ended up nearly burning the neck off the poor fella. I can make good Sidecars, just not after I've already had all the other Sidecars on earth. And he still asked me out again. Maybe we could come up with a wedding favour that demonstrates the groom's EXTREME TOLERANCE for the bride's antics?

For music, we're gonna have a few friends put together comp CDs, and bring loads of our own stuff to play. We'll probably need to download Kool and the Gang's "Celebration", just to comply with the Wedding Cheese law. I think me da is bringing the Tarantella and some other tacky Italian music.

 

[jane]

I'd also recommend http://kvetch.indiebride.com. Almost as good as the Personal Issues forum on boards.ie. Almost.

Ah, no. I tried looking at those websites but they make me want to eat my own eyeballs.

Coraline has been so kind as to point me to a few useful threads, though, as well as one car crash one, which has saved me the pain of eating my own eyeballs.

 

[Catwoman]

ANYROADS, do any of the married people on here know if you're absolutely required to have 'wedding favours'? They seem to be an American thing more than anything else, but how common are they here?

My personal opinion of them is they're a waste of money. Most weddings I've been to that most guests get drunk and forget to bring the favours home with them. Having said that, the last one I was at, the favours were Xmas tree decorations and they were really nice so I remembered to bring one home.

I didn't have any. If your budget allows it and you want them - fair enough. I don't think anyone will notice if you don't have them though.

 

[Catwoman]

Ah, no. I tried looking at those websites but they make me want to eat my own eyeballs.

Coraline has been so kind as to point me to a few useful threads, though, as well as one car crash one, which has saved me the pain of eating my own eyeballs.

I saw a thread on that site about how the bride's family like a drink, but the groom's family were baptists and tee-total. 'Should I have booze at the wedding?' was the question. The number of replies that said 'no you shouldn't' absolutely staggared me. I didn't look at that site after that.

 

[Unicron]

My personal opinion of them is they're a waste of money. Most weddings I've been to that most guests get drunk and forget to bring the favours home with them. Having said that, the last one I was at, the favours were Xmas tree decorations and they were really nice so I remembered to bring one home.

I didn't have any. If your budget allows it and you want them - fair enough. I don't think anyone will notice if you don't have them though.

At the one I crashed the car on the way to my cousin had had packs of Rolos done up with the outer wrapper removed and replaced with ones that had her name and the groom's on them.