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Green Goblin
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Re: Meeting People
That's not fair either, I was talking about me, not other people there.
Just because I reject some quite frankly shitty advice doesn't mean I reject all advice. If good advice was that readily available, then maybe I'd be a bit better off. I wasn't expecting to get any decent advice right off the bat, but it's depressing that homogenous advice is so readily available, too.
People become overly protective of their advice; if you were actually interested in helping them out; why? Nobody has to take anyone else's advice if they can give a good reason why not, which you just ignore.
I always hate this; I see it a lot on forums, where someone asks for advice and people get pissed that their marvellous advice wasn't taken and start to attack the person who was in need of help, like someone looking for a cheap practice Amp on a budget and a bunch of asses come in recommending Mesa Boogies or something. If you're being pushy with your advice when someone has come up with a good retort, it negates the usefulness of the advice to begin with. If people are genuinely trying to help because they've "Been there maan" and all that, then I appreciate that, but they have to have some individual patience for the person they're giving it to, or else they're just trying to show off their WORLDLY WISDOM rather than being any help at all.
I've pointed out good reasons why this advice is not useful for me, nor would there be any practical way for me to take it. I am open to advice that applies to me, but nobody is taking the whole aspergers thing into account in the slightest, and that's before any individual factors. This was post was just fucking arrogant to make. Someone isn't wrong for not taking advice that doesn't apply to them.
I am simply not interested in socialising the way most other people socialise. This is not because I am trying too hard to be different and unique, I just simply do not relate to others in the same way you do. This is not a concious decision, people need to get over the idea that everyone with problems is making their lives diffcult for themselves - it's true that improving yourself and not just trying to improve others will improve your chances at getting on, but not if these improvements involve trying to emulate others who work different internally. I am working past my difficulties, but there's only so much tha will help - aside from my Aspergers, I'm a fish out of water here, the vast majority of people don't share my interests or worldview or grab my interest apart from that, but I know that there have to be others like me here so I don't want to give up just yet - it's extremely difficult for me to move in my situation, and it certainly wouldn't help people like me out who can't move, at all.
I personally believe most of the flaws of aspergers and perhaps even autism are not really flaws with that person's brain, but with other people, who enforce certain ways of communicating with and relating to others, and demeaning someone for holding certain social preferences like people have done in this thread. It's everyone else's social skills that suck just as bad.
Are you hinting that we're all about desperate lust on here so?
Thats a great view to have. No more help from me.
That's not fair either, I was talking about me, not other people there.
God this post made me angrier than anything else in days.Just curious: is there any advice or help that anyone could give you that you wouldn't summarily reject?
Just because I reject some quite frankly shitty advice doesn't mean I reject all advice. If good advice was that readily available, then maybe I'd be a bit better off. I wasn't expecting to get any decent advice right off the bat, but it's depressing that homogenous advice is so readily available, too.
People become overly protective of their advice; if you were actually interested in helping them out; why? Nobody has to take anyone else's advice if they can give a good reason why not, which you just ignore.
I always hate this; I see it a lot on forums, where someone asks for advice and people get pissed that their marvellous advice wasn't taken and start to attack the person who was in need of help, like someone looking for a cheap practice Amp on a budget and a bunch of asses come in recommending Mesa Boogies or something. If you're being pushy with your advice when someone has come up with a good retort, it negates the usefulness of the advice to begin with. If people are genuinely trying to help because they've "Been there maan" and all that, then I appreciate that, but they have to have some individual patience for the person they're giving it to, or else they're just trying to show off their WORLDLY WISDOM rather than being any help at all.
I've pointed out good reasons why this advice is not useful for me, nor would there be any practical way for me to take it. I am open to advice that applies to me, but nobody is taking the whole aspergers thing into account in the slightest, and that's before any individual factors. This was post was just fucking arrogant to make. Someone isn't wrong for not taking advice that doesn't apply to them.
I am simply not interested in socialising the way most other people socialise. This is not because I am trying too hard to be different and unique, I just simply do not relate to others in the same way you do. This is not a concious decision, people need to get over the idea that everyone with problems is making their lives diffcult for themselves - it's true that improving yourself and not just trying to improve others will improve your chances at getting on, but not if these improvements involve trying to emulate others who work different internally. I am working past my difficulties, but there's only so much tha will help - aside from my Aspergers, I'm a fish out of water here, the vast majority of people don't share my interests or worldview or grab my interest apart from that, but I know that there have to be others like me here so I don't want to give up just yet - it's extremely difficult for me to move in my situation, and it certainly wouldn't help people like me out who can't move, at all.
I personally believe most of the flaws of aspergers and perhaps even autism are not really flaws with that person's brain, but with other people, who enforce certain ways of communicating with and relating to others, and demeaning someone for holding certain social preferences like people have done in this thread. It's everyone else's social skills that suck just as bad.