Meeting People / Aspergers (16 Viewers)

[Diddles]

i'm sympathising with the goblin because i nearly started this thread on many's an occasion, as i would also really like it if somone told me how to deal with relationships while similtaneously dealing with a condition that effects my ability to socialise.

T-g, if you put up a thread like this I'm sure you'd find lots of useful advice, and a load of bollix as well, but you'd take what you needed and not be so dismissive of everyone. I don't think you'd be calling people twats in fairness.

 

[FiFi_LaRue]

But you're making a simple mistake here - with the attitudes shown here, I'm merely making it clear I do not wish to integrate with certain people here. I really do think some of you are unbelievable twats and I'm finding it hard to express exactly why I think that, but some kind of core arrogance and pretentiousness.

Anyway, like I said I've had enough so I'm off for the evening.

Yet you still haven't made an effort to do what I suggested.

We can't understand what you're able to do, or what you have difficulty doing without you trying to explain to us.

Like you've said yourself Aspergers is not the same for everyone! How can someone with one experience of aspergers not expect it to be the same for everyone if you don't explain what it's like for you?

I'm visually impaired, registered as blind, as a result of this I have difficulties when I'm out socially. Most people, even many of my friends don't realise exactly how it affects me. I've learned ways to adapt and to cope with things. I have to think of so many different things before a night out that other people don't even have to consider. I often have to ask for help when out so that I can see bus numbers, or read menus etc. I'm an incredibly independent person, but I'm also a little shy, but in order for me to a) lead as normal a life as possible and b) meet people I have to come out of my comfort zone.

However, like Aspergers my visual impairment is not obvious to people who look at me. So often I can find myself in an awkward situation where I've to explain my condition before I may feel comfortable with a person. I played rugby with my current team for an entire year before I felt safe enough with them to let them know how bad my eyesight is (This probably seems strange, but I'm fast and have great hands* and adapted my game to lessen the impact of my eyesight).

Anywho, I'm just letting you know that the "cookie cutter" advice you feel people are doling out to you may not suit you, but it doesn't necessarily suit everyone else either. The thing to do is take what you want from what people tell you and ignore anything else. Adapt other things and be more tolerant.

"If you build according to every man's advice you will have a crooked house".

 

[ann post]

as diddles was say..

your right.

probably just pricks.

 

[whathappen?]

I played rugby with my current team for an entire year before I felt safe enough with them to let them know how bad my eyesight is (This probably seems strange, but I'm fast and have great hands* and adapted my game to lessen the impact of my eyesight).

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I'm sorry like, but THAT is fucking impressive.

 

[nooleen]

man, what a waste of your time,you could have been on the internet complaining about how rough you have it instead of getting on with shit.

 

[Dktr. Faustus]

I do understand where they're coming from. Did you not just read the post I made?

Yes I did unfortunately and no, you did misunderstand. People always sacrifice a bit of themselves in social situations, and if you're not ready for that, no advice will help you. It's worth it though. People have fun and stuff because they do that. You could even give and receive advice and not be a prick about it if the other person doesn't fully grasp the full finesse of your multifocal personality in it's finest detail.

p.s. stop posting.

 

[FiFi_LaRue]

I'm sorry like, but THAT is fucking impressive.

Heh, ta.

 

[flashback]

Here, green goblin, why were you banned from boards.ie?

 

[SONYMEGADRIVE]

what's your asberger's special power? the guy in the video was brilliant at geology

you know when you do finally meet that special someone, who
likes the same shitty goth bands and anime just as much you,
you get a whole list of amazing new special mutual interests to
devote your time to like whose turn it is to pay the esb bill, taking
the cat to the vet, doing the shopping, and loads more - that's
really the best bit!!

 

[Froog]

Well, I'm sorry to say that this still isn't the kind of relationship that tickles my fancy even if it works for others.

It's like if I'm interested in playing blues guitar, and you recommend me GRINDCORE.

No unfortunately

dude, women aren't music. i think you should separate the two.

 

[Froog]

You know I want more than that, Moods for Mallards.

moods for mallards is a gurl?

 

[Wobbler]

moods for mallards is a gurl?

I don't care whether he's a girtl or a boy, as long as he likes the same music as me.

 

[chutneyfarmer]

The lack of understanding amongst people on Thumped astounds me sometimes.

 

[Froog]

thing is tho chutney, we're not experts on anything, and the temptation to revert to lols on an internet forum is just too great, especially when someone is being incredibly rude to everyone.

i do feel for the guy, but it's hard to be understanding when someone's being a prick.

 

[Jill Hives]

thing is tho chutney, we're not experts on anything, and the temptation to revert to lols on an internet forum is just too great, especially when someone is being incredibly rude to everyone.

i do feel for the guy, but it's hard to be understanding when someone's being a prick.

Part of Aspergers is not being able to comprehend that words are insensitive or rude. People with the affliction are very focused on one topic and use it to be comfortable in a social setting, so much sometimes it almost becomes a tirade. It's a lack of perception. Music is obviously his passion. This thread is a train wreck.

 

[therealjohnny]

The thread is completely pointless. No-one will ever stumble across the one grain of sand on the beach that might be the answer that guy is looking for.

Because of his condition he is incapable of comprehending social mores- which he maintains is everyone's else's failing

he's a rude asshole, who has aspergers. Maybe the aspergers makes him a rude asshole, maybe not, I don't care.



Imagine being in a band with him

shudder

 

[Squiggle]

Can everyone just leave the guy alone.

I know that descending into ridicule or meanness comes naturally for thumped, but one of these days someone vulnerable will be pushed over the edge.

 

[therealjohnny]

shit, you're right of course

I should have just stayed out of this

Is there a "posters remorse" thread anywhere

 

[Moods For Mallards]

Put a lock on it.

Down with Thumped.

 

[Froog]