Asking someone on a date (1 Viewer)

[billygannon]

You're duty bound to tell us how it all goes.
We've spent literally minutes working on our casual, smart-arse replies. It's the very least you can do.

 

[wild_cat]

First off do they know that you fancy em in that kinda way?

This happened me a little while ago.. I eh... bebo messaged them. It was the only way I could, id left work and didnt have their number etc.

All ya have to say is "fancy meeting up for a drink sometime" in a text like...

Worst comes to worst ye can meet up in the friend way or you can get really drunk and say "here give us a kiss"... if she turns you down you wont mind cause your pissed.

 

[mr pharmacist!!!!1]

text her saying "ever howled at the moon?"

 

[sarah]

Don't go near a restaraunt. It's too formal. Go to the pub. Make sure it does'nt blast loud music or you'll end up feeling like freaks as you roar in each other's ears. Food on a first date is a no no. You can change boozers, or run away. Restaurant, no way.

I agree, also if she's like me and half of my lady friends who are equally as unbalanced as me, she might be weird about eating in front of a new person. It takes me ages to eat anything with someone I don't know (girl or boy) and I usually leave half behind despite being hungry cause I'm weird. Gigs are good though. Ask her out.

 

[muffin]

I'd be wary of a restaurant too..I'm really picky about food so I'd be so worried about what I was gonna eat, I wouldn't enjoy it..

I'd go for a pub..Somewhere nice and not smelly or horrible..Macturcaills (sp?) is nice for this sort of thing..

Or you could do like my other half did and bring me to a really dodgy pub so we kinda bonded over the fact that we might get killed

 

[Wobbler]

Or you could do like my other half did and bring me to a really dodgy pub so we kinda bonded over the fact that we might get killed

Yeah, my wife and I have often spent our most romantic moments in dodgy pubs.

 

[oh shit]

i suggest meeting up during an afternoon when you're both free. have few loose ideas of what you could do later on, ie gig or show or random event - unless you know for sure that she's into going to pubs and/or gigs, then don't make that the big plan, cos if she isn't, or if it's a crap gig, then it's a shit night, and you'll have made her pay into something wick, and that's not cool.

on the other hand afternoon = nice outdoor walk in the park, a chance to talk, non-threatening environment (ie she can leg it or summon a police officer if you start admiring peter sutcliffe), no expectations of anything sexy happening.
and if it goes well, then you can get a meal somewhere and then head to a pub or a show or whatever.

also has the advantage of making you seem not worried by the whole thing, which you seem to be, unnecessarily...

 

[Johnnyc]

Just get her a ticket to the gun show. Works EVERY time.

 

[oh shit]

i usually save the gun show til i get the shirt off

 

[Reets]

got to agree with oh shit there,an afternoon in town is always a good idea and lots to do if you dont want the night to end early. but dont underestimate the effect of a bad gig, it can be a good way to get rid of the whole first date tensions and swopping bad band horror stories can help you two get closer, the fantastical shitness of a band (think they were called seagull something) has worked well for me in the past, still doesnt make up for watching them.
hope it goes well, if not her loss.

 

[Unicron]

Yeah, my wife and I have often spent our most romantic moments in the jacks of dodgy pubs.

Kinky

 

[Reets]

fun but eww messy

 

[zero_hero]

All suggestions very much appreciated thanks guys

Text her at about three and we were texting for ages. I'm trying to think of a gig to suggest.... I live in Galway. Thats my next text

 

[mamul]

why don't you bring her to see jandek this week? that would be well romantic. or elese bring her for a meal but just hope this doesn't happen
YouTube - Snuff Box - restaurant date clip

 

[Cormcolash]

All suggestions very much appreciated thanks guys

Text her at about three and we were texting for ages. I'm trying to think of a gig to suggest.... I live in Galway. Thats my next text

Bring her to see Arnocorps in the Roisin tonight. Then afterwards, you can both feel the pump and increase your musculature. GOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

 

[Sweetie]

Don't go near a restaraunt. It's too formal. Go to the pub. Make sure it does'nt blast loud music or you'll end up feeling like freaks as you roar in each other's ears. Food on a first date is a no no. You can change boozers, or run away. Restaurant, no way.

I don't know, all my single girl friends are going on dates to restaurants now. It might depend what age you guys are - over 24/25 then I think a restaurant is nice, or a weekend lunch with a drink after, or a gig.

Under 24/25 then meeting for a drink is acceptable, but then what if you run out of things to say? Then a planned activity is the way to go, like a gig, where at least you have a conversation starter.

Also, don't leave it too long, girls get all pissed off if you get their number and leave it a week - they reckon they are just an after thought, or it's some kind of booty call. And leaving it over a week - don't even bother.

 

[Squiggle]

I'd second the afternoon walk idea. It offers lots of flexibility. It can be just a walk, or it can be a walk and then coffee/food/drinks with more walking. And if it's going well then it might just stretch on into evening plans.

Anyway, best of luck.

 

[David Kronenbourg]

at what point is it acceptable to send a nonsensical, drunken text message to a prospective shag only to regret it in the cold hard light of day when they completely ignore it?

 

[ernesto]

what does it mean when they tell you they have a boyfriend but continue to text you anyway

 

[maims bond]

I'd second the afternoon walk idea. It offers lots of flexibility. It can be just a walk, or it can be a walk and then coffee/food/drinks with more walking. And if it's going well then it might just stretch on into evening plans.

Anyway, best of luck.

If you go for a walk it's harder to disguise a boner...and harder to walk.