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[billygannon]

Is it possible to get a self-raising child, like the way you have self-raising flour?

 

[aoboa]

All you can do when you're raising a child is take your best guess

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[Anthony]

We were just discussing this the other day... not slapping, but that we don't know what we're doing and we're just winging it. Isn't everybody?

 

[Pantone247]

We were just discussing this the other day... not slapping, but that we don't know what we're doing and we're just winging it. Isn't everybody?

it's scary when you realise your parents must have been doing the same


though in my case I had my suspicions from an early age

 

[snakybus]

I think you're almost right and but I disagree with your last sentance there, kids know who their parents our irregardless of the time spent around them. It's the bond you form and I don't think it can be quantified something as simple as hours spent with child

But like I said I agree that peoples busy lifestyles could be affecting discilpline from the point of view that if you don't see your child all the workiing week when you do get some time with them you want it to be fun and nice and pleasant, so it can be easy to "not go there" with the discipline or waste time sulking and sitting on bold steps or in this case slapping. You want your kids to have happy memorys of your time together like

yes, well it's a tough one, really isn't it?

though to your credit I'd say as a single dad you spend a lot of quality time with Eala, perhaps more than many non-single dads

 

[snakybus]

We were just discussing this the other day... not slapping, but that we don't know what we're doing and we're just winging it. Isn't everybody?

absolutely

 

[egg_]

We were just discussing this the other day... not slapping, but that we don't know what we're doing and we're just winging it. Isn't everybody?

That's what everyone does in relationships with everyone else though, so you should have plenty of experience if nothing else

I think people get hung up on "discipline", but really unless you're a real authoritarian what you're mostly doing with a kid is negotiating a peaceful solution to the problem of sharing a life with him/her

 

[Anthony]

But you can see it quite a lot. Parents who want to "friends" with their kids so badly that they fail to even give out to them. You can see the kids running rings around them.

 

[Ferox13]

it's scary when you realise your parents must have been doing the same


though in my case I had my suspicions from an early age

LOL

 

[Pantone247]

though to your credit I'd say as a single dad you spend a lot of quality time with Eala, perhaps more than many non-single dads

I think people get hung up on "discipline", but really unless you're a real authoritarian what you're mostly doing with a kid is negotiating a peaceful solution to the problem of sharing a life with him/her

yeah but have you ever turned around and seen your kiddo doing something bold, or more likely possibly dangerous, and you shout out to them and suddenly you hear your dads voice coming out of your mouth

bizzaro...

 

[egg_]

yeah but have you ever turned around and seen your kiddo doing something bold, or more likely possibly dangerous, and you shout out to them and suddenly you hear your dads voice coming out of your mouth

"WHAT ARE YOU DOIN?" in the voice of an outraged south Wexford culshie ... hehe of course

 

[DEARLYDEMENTED]

I just feel so bad i cant smack my little one she gives me that look the qwivery lip the glassy eyes no im useless when it comes to dicipline

 

[snakybus]

So, nearly four years later....any updates on this from parents?

 

[ernesto]

i smacked all mine to death

 

[Diumraid]

Mother cat gives her kittens a clip across the head when they act inappropriately - in behaviourist terms it works, no need to make an enormous psychodrama out of it. Dysfunctional people will be disproportionally vigorous with it. I think the value of pacifism and the reasonable fear of all things authoritarian has been inverted into a debilitating horror of violence and mistrust of the idea of genuine authority, all leading to a weaker and more pliable target market.

 

[Diumraid]

...Having said that I'm very slow to resort to a smack knowing I've got options to exhaust first.

 

[Carlow Punks!]

Smack has torn many families apart on this island. DON'T DO IT

 

[Diumraid]

I've never seen anything tear a family apart like a pack of hungry timber wolves ...
paraphrased from Jack Handy