Who can you trust? (1 Viewer)

[7 - No tomorrow]

Trust no one.

Well, clearly!

 

[Unicron]

Totally.

Hey, I got one right

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

She was interested and took it as a deceptive and cowardly rejection?

I didn't think I owed her an update on my dating status.

 

[Unicron]

I didn't think I owed her an update on my dating status.

That's fair enough, I'm just putting forward a theory as to why she may have acted so strongly

 

[jonah]

I've actually caught up on the thread. It makes me think of how people approach romantic relationships, particularly when they've been hurt badly. I have a lot of friends who have come out of difficult relationships over the last few years and its understandable that it hardens them, but it makes me sad to see.

I don't really understand what you really have to lose when you go all in, in any situation! Yes showing too much of yourself, and divulging all of your "stuff" is really hard and when it backfires, its even worse, but... you recover, you get on with your life. You actually shock yourself with what you can recover from. And then you do it all over.

It sounds painful when you think of it like that, but the alternative? Holding yourself back on this false notion that there's something precious about what you keep to yourself? I don't feel that way anyway, I like to think that no matter what happens to me, I'll always be open and the kind of person that throws themselves into my relationships, and fuck it, if it goes tits up what are you really losing? You just become a more secure person yourself. I don't know... I guess its just sad to think of all these people out there wasting their lives by holding everything in and thinking they're being shrewd when really they're just wasting their time and missing out on all the awesomeness that can come from trusting people!

MY TWO CENTS.

 

[therealjohnny]

This thread just makes me think "I've been to paradise...but I've never been to me"

 

[pete]

As if a bartender wouldn't bring it up again?
People relate to people based on what they know about one another.
I bring stuff up people told me the next time they come in because it shows I remember them and makes a connection.
I'd say a prostitute is your best bet.

I'm choosing to read that as a non sequitur.

 

[ann post]

I've actually caught up on the thread. It makes me think of how people approach romantic relationships, particularly when they've been hurt badly. I have a lot of friends who have come out of difficult relationships over the last few years and its understandable that it hardens them, but it makes me sad to see.

Trust in that context is interesting. I think of romance as extended friendship. I can't go out with people based on physicality for very long, even if they are amazing in the leaba. My trust structure is demented though. I'm sort of like a timebomb. The minute i meet a woman and there is some mutality its a countdown to either getting rid of them of introducing them to my disorder. Either scenario is a necessity, bar the occasional one night stand, which i should be getting oscar nominations for. I've come to see it like a third person. But i have to boil trust down to 'are they going to remember which side of my face to avoid' at some stage, which is insane, but it is what it is.

 

[Cormcolash]

You can close the thread now, question answered

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[Jill Hives]

I don't know... I guess its just sad to think of all these people out there wasting their lives by holding everything in and thinking they're being shrewd when really they're just wasting their time and missing out on all the awesomeness that can come from trusting people!

I totally agree.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

Women and children can be careless, but not men.

 

[Jill Hives]

Women and children can be careless, but not men.

You're not Don Corleone.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

You're not Don Corleone.

Don't ask me about my business, Hives

 

[Jill Hives]

Don't ask me about my business, Hives

The sicker you get, the wiser you get, huh?

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

The sicker you get, the wiser you get, huh?

III is not canon

But yes

Ha

 

[HMD]

@pete set up the forum where people could post anonymously again, it worked out last time.

 

[Jim Daniels]

 

[pete]

@pete set up the forum where people could post anonymously again, it worked out last time.

err, no

 

[Reets]

I have about 5 or 6 people that I could trust to help me bury a body, but I think that's probably more to do with their dubious morality.
Maybe I'm an exception, but I have a lot of people in my life that I would trust completing, but depend on is a whole different thing.
I have 2 maybe 3 people in my life that I can depend on.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

Conversely, lots of people trust me.