Who can you trust? (1 Viewer)

[7 - No tomorrow]

Sorry, I only have solutions for hairy-arses

Actually, now you mention it.......

 

[Anthony]

Therapy?

 

[Jill Hives]

All I know is, don't post it on a secret forum.

 

[nooleen]

whisper your secrets to your hairy arse

 

[ann post]

But what about ongoing personal issues that you need to talk out but you'd rather the world not know.

Its particular to my disease but these days i dump things like that in the support group, which is a 'safe space' as such, in that there is a mutual agreement that what happens in it stays in it. I suppose support groups in that sense are trust groups.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

Its particular to my disease but these days i dump things like that in the support group, which is a 'safe space' as such, in that there is a mutual agreement that what happens in it stays in it. I suppose support groups in that sense are trust groups.

Great to have them.

Hey, has the internet helped to form these things?

Or do you even remember before the internet?

 

[ann post]

Great to have them.

Hey, has the internet helped to form these things?

Or do you even remember before the internet?

Yes it has. Before the internet I attended the group twice a year and that was the only time i'd really talk about all the like scary stuff that goes on with the disease. Nowadays there is a continuing ongoing online thing going on and even if you aren't talking about yourself you'll see other people experiencing the same which is nearly as 'good'.

Before the internet it was about 40 people involved. Its around 250 now and I get about 1 email a month from people who've been wandering about dealing with it alone, who i direct to the group.

Its just a private facebook page, nothing fancy.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

Good for you. I love shit like that.

 

[GO]

Bottle it up inside

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

Bottle it up inside

This is the only system to never let me down.

Venting and whining are overrated.

 

[ann post]

Therapy?

I've dated a few therapists.
the stories i've heard.
We have it easy folks.

 

[Jill Hives]

Bottle it up inside

The Irish way.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

The Irish way.

The way it always was before we all lost the run of ourselves with sharing and feelings and constantly wondering if we were happy or not!

 

[Jill Hives]

The way it always was before we all lost the run of ourselves with sharing and feelings and constantly wondering if we were happy or not!

Communication doesn't need to be like a Dr. Phil shit show. However, not talking because one doesn't trust anyone other than themselves borderlines on paranoia. Plus it doesn't allow anyone in their life to have faults thus setting oneself up for a life of loneliness and unhappiness. No need to constantly wonder so!

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

Communication doesn't need to be like a Dr. Phil shit show. However, not talking because one doesn't trust anyone other than themselves borderlines on paranoia. Plus it doesn't allow anyone in their life to have faults thus setting oneself up for a life of loneliness and unhappiness. No need to constantly wonder so!

Information is power. Telling someone something about yourself is to give them power over you.

 

[Jill Hives]

Information is power. Telling someone something about yourself is to give them power over you.

Seriously?
Sometimes you make me sad.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

Seriously?
Sometimes you make me sad.

Of course. Everyone knows that.

A friend of mine excitedly told her co-workers she was going on an internet date. Then the guy stands her up and she has everyone texting her the next morning asking how it's going.
I think in that situation she should have said nothing. Control the story.

Every time you tell someone something, you're making a hostage to fortune.

 

[Jill Hives]

Of course. Everyone knows that.

A friend of mine excitedly told her co-workers she was going on an internet date. Then the guy stands her up and she has everyone texting her the next morning asking how it's going.
I think in that situation she should have said nothing. Control the story.

Every time you tell someone something, you're making a hostage to fortune.

Okay, that's completely different to self harming or what ever else you mentioned above. I wouldn't tell co-workers anything like that, well, I suppose now I do but only because she's also my bestie.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

I suppose now I do but only because she's also my bestie.

tell her nothing!!!

Don't say I said that!

 

[Jill Hives]

tell her nothing!!!

Don't say I said that!

It would be impossible to go on a date without her knowing.
We actually had a (conversation over pancakes this morning) on how patrons would murder my body.