I don't think needs are in a hierarchy. Obvs if you don't get your physical needs met you die, but not getting your emotional needs met can kill you too, just less directly. And I think self actualisation is a fantasy
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Why have you arranged them in a hierarchy then?I don't think needs are in a hierarchy. Obvs if you don't get your physical needs met you die, but not getting your emotional needs met can kill you too, just less directly. And I think self actualisation is a fantasy
Everyone's got their own level of needs.Anyway, on topic, I've mentioned elsewhere that I've been bingeing on the blindboy podcast while I've been painting the house, and thus have been more exposed to 'therapy speak' than I have ever been. A lot of that is not for me, I've thankfully not had to deal with a lot of what he addresses in his mental health episodes. But would wonder where people would draw the line between that, and the basic concepts being discussed above, and 'self help' books?
I know someone who reads a lot of self help/improve your life books, and they're really quite selfish and mercenary. That sort of 'i want to discuss my problems with you' person, who will say 'can we talk about something happier?' if someone else tries to discuss their problems with them.
Whether the self help books caused them to behave like that, or they were already like that, I don't know, but I know which answer I'd guess. But I do suspect reading lots of books which make you ponder your inner workings can make you focus too much on your inner workings.
Anyway, on topic, I've mentioned elsewhere that I've been bingeing on the blindboy podcast while I've been painting the house, and thus have been more exposed to 'therapy speak' than I have ever been. A lot of that is not for me, I've thankfully not had to deal with a lot of what he addresses in his mental health episodes. But would wonder where people would draw the line between that, and the basic concepts being discussed above, and 'self help' books?
I know someone who reads a lot of self help/improve your life books, and they're really quite selfish and mercenary. That sort of 'i want to discuss my problems with you' person, who will say 'can we talk about something happier?' if someone else tries to discuss their problems with them.
Whether the self help books caused them to behave like that, or they were already like that, I don't know, but I know which answer I'd guess. But I do suspect reading lots of books which make you ponder your inner workings can make you focus too much on your inner workings.
I suspect the main issue many people have with self help books is that the assumption is a lot of them are focused on making you feel better about yourself - which is not a bad thing in itself - but what many people need is a kick up the hole, not a 'you're a rare and precious flower' message.Everyone's got their own level of needs.
I think there's real value in reading what thoughtful people have written about dealing with life. When you have a decent understanding of yourself and your needs, you can recognise what's useful to you and what you can leave; the old "take what you like, and leave the rest".
Endlessly reading every guru to come down the pike in the hope that there's an answer for you somewhere sounds like a massive task.
Your friend is in pain, it sounds like to me. Or they're perhaps a narcissist. Or both. Or not at all. Not sure books cause any of that though. But again, maybe so, maybe not.
He uses the word 'cunt' more often than most priests would.On the topic of religion being inevitable i kinda see stuff like blindboy essentially being modern day mass.
There's digital community there who all go listen to the same lad shite on every week and if you say anything bad about mental health then you'll have to say a few rosaries or something.
He has seeked out the role in society where he wears a mask as a safety net for his own personality - not much different to firing on a big robe every sunday morning when you have to speak about the matters of the community...
I've actually never listened to the podcast.
I don't think needs are in a hierarchy. Obvs if you don't get your physical needs met you die, but not getting your emotional needs met can kill you too, just less directly. And I think self actualisation is a fantasy
Your girlfriends? Are you a woman? And you changed your dating patterns after reading a self-help book aimed at men? Tell me more ...When I was having a lot of really bad relationships, a good friend (now deceased) recommended _Nice Guys Don't Get Laid_ by Marcus P. Meleton. I really enjoyed it. I don't know how good it is as a self-help book, but after I took the lessons to heart, I finally stopped dating losers. Married for 22 years. I give a copy to all my girlfriends who are having dating problems.
It's for middle managers of middling intelligence.
Sounds more humour than self helpYour girlfriends? Are you a woman? And you changed your dating patterns after reading a self-help book aimed at men? Tell me more ...
In my somewhat limited experience, they come in all flavours, from Chicken Soup For the Soul to David Goggins: Can't Hurt Me. THere's plenty of books/programmes willing to call you a pussy if that's what works for you.I suspect the main issue many people have with self help books is that the assumption is a lot of them are focused on making you feel better about yourself - which is not a bad thing in itself - but what many people need is a kick up the hole, not a 'you're a rare and precious flower' message.
The latter message probably sells better
Your girlfriends? Are you a woman? And you changed your dating patterns after reading a self-help book aimed at men? Tell me more ...
Show them this threadSo ask thumped basically??
I know someone who reads a lot of self help/improve your life books, and they're really quite selfish and mercenary. That sort of 'i want to discuss my problems with you' person, who will say 'can we talk about something happier?' if someone else tries to discuss their problems with them.
Whether the self help books caused them to behave like that, or they were already like that, I don't know, but I know which answer I'd guess. But I do suspect reading lots of books which make you ponder your inner workings can make you focus too much on your inner workings.
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