Staying friends with an ex (1 Viewer)

[FiFi_LaRue]

Yeah, emotions always get in the way of things. The Vulcans have the right idea.

 

[Unicron]

My best (depending on the stringency of your defination "only") friend is an ex. I'm now so emotionally mature that I no longer do a little dance of joy when she tells me that she's cheated on the dude that she started seeing after me.

 

[BonsaiSuperstar]

Something going on in groom I don't know about?

it's all gone a bit Culture Club....

 

[GO]

ah man, not another one of these fucken threads

Grow some hair on yer balls, all of yiz. The women included.

Snakybus for prez.

 

[ann post]

i bet snakybus already has a girlfriend. fag.

 

[theweeyin]

It only works well where both parties are satisfied with just being friends. If there are lingering romantic feelings on either side it's difficult, and not fair on the one still carrying a torch.

Agreed, also agree with morg.

I think it depends on several factors. Like how the relationship ended and why, have either/both still got romantic intentions etc. I'm friends with a couple of exes, but only managed that after sufficient time passed and we'd moved on enough. I also know there are one, or two I could never ever talk to again.

Agreed. I've gotten to the friends stage with my ex (although I still have contact with all of them if I'm honest). The thing with this ex is that we were always just really good friends who were trying to make more if it. Once we realised that's what the problem was, and had some space apart, it was all good. I'm really pleased with the way things are now and it's not weird when we talk about other people that we're seeing and stuff.

Ahhh, happy days

 

[Jim Daniels]

Ha! Ye all seem to have a load of exes

One of mates reckons they "just become surplus to your requirements". Harsh.

I think it depends on whether or not you were friends before you hooked up..

 

[nooleen]

One of mates reckons they "just become surplus to your requirements". Harsh.

sounds like someone hurt him real bad. the bravado numbs the pain...kind of

 

[ann post]

 

[GO]

sounds like someone hurt him real bad. the bravado numbs the pain...kind of

Sounds like he's not the only one to have gotten hurt....

You can talk to the internet Nooly.Let it all out....

 

[nooleen]

talk! HA! i ain't got nothin to talk about, i broke all their hearts and left them for dust. sob

 

[ernesto]

I reckon it only makes things worse remaining close friends. You need to be apart for a long time to get a good run at being apart, otherwise the feelings won't fade as they should by being apart.

yes. it helps when one of you leaves the country / continent.
otherwise its even harder

 

[ann post]

its terribly hard work. unless they turned lesbian, then its the height of entertainment. ..the real problem (i was just having this very discussion over a bottle o something lastnight) is that echo's of the cross dependence on each other are actually a hindrance to either party moving on to greener pastures. the best friend either party can be is the friend that lets them move on.

untill they text you talking about having pixies tickets. then the morals can fuck off.