jane
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kirstie said:eh who's to say you're more competant when you're younger?
The point I am making is that we've contravened nature in every other regard with medicine (because if we hadn't most of us here would be scarred from smallpox, limp from polio or dead from multifarious diseases by now) so what's actually really wrong with having a child after the limit imposed by menopause?
Exactly. I see the concerns, but I also see the underlying issue that 'society' (in whatever way we choose to define it) still sees a woman's womb as a sort of public domain, and that a woman's choices about her body aren't entirely her own. In the last few years, since more people our age have been having babies, I've definitely heard a lot of them talking about how other people make it their business, even total strangers. I even heard a couple of women talking in a lunch place a few weeks ago about how one of them, when waitressing, refused to put parmesean cheese on a woman's salad because she noticed she was pregnant. Ok, unpasteurised cheese is on the 'risk' list of foods, but that's not anyone's business, especially not a stranger, and I should have butted in and told the bitch to get off her high horse because, duh, of course it was none of my beeswax, but neither was telling a woman what to do just because she's up the duff! Imagine the outrage if someone randomly went around robbing cakes off of overweight people, or making them run laps, or nicking the butter off someone's plate because they have high cholesterol! But no, somehow, people think they have a right to impose their will on a woman because she's pregnant, or tell her when she can and cannot give birth.
Of course her age is an issue, but I would hesitate to impose any restriction on a woman's choice to give birth, whether it has to do with abortion, or with wanting to give birth at an age or at any other time deemed less than ideal by the wider public.
I mean, plenty of people have kids when they can't afford them, or when they're too young, or who have a history of serious illness. This is a woman who is extremely healthy, who wants nothing more than to give care and attention to a child, and is willing to do anything to have the opportunity to do so. While I still don't like to judge women one way or the other, all concerns aside, that child is 100% wanted, and that's a start millions of kids on the earth don't get.
Clearly, she's prepared for it, and she's ready for it, and it's not like she wouldn't have thought long and hard about the effects of her age, but it doesn't make it onto the news when a 62-year old man becomes a dad. In fact, people often have the opposite response, with either explicit or implicit applause for the guy's virility.
There have been occasional incidents where women have given birth naturally in their late 50s or into their 60s, so how is this all that different, except that she went to tremendous trouble to do it, and is extremely committed to being a mom?
Where was I? Oh yeah, still reeling from the fact that you're not supposed to have smelly cheese when you're pregnant. If I ever am up the duff, I'm screwed. Stinky cheese comprises about 75% of my diet.