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By being a big sap, wha?
Way ahead of you there
Meeting someone for a movie this weekend. Never met before.
Don't know her age, name, or what she looks like. Or even her height.
But she's funny and whipsmart. And she has picked a documentary on the Cambodian genocide. Which is a good sign.
Could turn out to be a 50-year-old dude. We could probably talk about sports in that case.
Don't know her age, name, or what she looks like. Or even her height.
But she's funny and whipsmart. And she has picked a documentary on the Cambodian genocide. Which is a good sign.
Could turn out to be a 50-year-old dude. We could probably talk about sports in that case.
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If it goes well and you start posting loads about how great relationships are you are getting such a pile of mehs
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There is an article in today's Indo about women shunning small men in online dating. I have been told about it, but can't find it online.
Has anyone else seen it? Or know how to link to it?
They print stuff they don't put online?
There is an article in today's Indo about women shunning small men in online dating. I have been told about it, but can't find it online.
Has anyone else seen it? Or know how to link to it?
They print stuff they don't put online?
David Kronenbourg
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Ooh, I wanna read this. As a neither short nor tall man, I find this subject really interesting.
I’m currently dating someone I met two years ago on Tinder, didn’t work out the first time, but we remained friends and recently decided to give it another go.
This is for a tall girl I know that wants to send it to another tall girl.
Apparently I am some kind of go-to internet person.
Apparently I am some kind of go-to internet person.
Jonathan Wells: Why does a man's height still matter? - Life & Style - NZ Herald News
Jonathan Wells tackles the last dating taboo.
"We all have our own idea of physical perfection. And seeing that women aren't beating around the bush in their pursuit of it, why should we?" Photo / Thinkstock
Last week, I created two online dating profiles. Both had exactly the same name, brief biography and three photographs - except for one small change. In the first, I said I was 5ft 7in; in the second, 6ft 3in.
In reality I stand between 5ft 8in and 5ft 9in. I'm certainly no Andre the Giant, but nor do I consider myself hobbitesque.
Yet it would appear that, for the majority of women, height is a crucial determiner in the search for a partner. My towering alter-ego was "matched" 11 times, while my Lilliputian self received interest from just two women.
A brief search of women's profiles on Tinder tells shorter men what they've long known - taller guys get the girls. Comments include: "If you're under 6ft and live outside zone 2, it probably won't work", "You know what you call boys that are under 6ft? Friends" and "If u arent at least 6'3", I'm not interested".
Even that cliched cornerstone of what women look for in a man, "Tall, dark and handsome", begins with a very heightist requirement. Don't get me wrong, we can't berate women for having "types".
My question is this: why is it acceptable for a woman to shirk away from a shorter man, but when that same man declines the advances of a "larger" woman, he is labelled as a superficial pig?
Height and weight are both measurements. The only practical manner in which they differ is their permanence. A person's height is considerably more fixed than their weight - which makes it all the more unfair to judge.
It's not as if that man can just nip to his local gym or lay off the cake to transform into modern culture's towering image of attractiveness. Women are stipulating superficial demands without fear of retribution.
A friend of mine had a particularly crushing experience. He had been dating a girl who was a little taller than him for around three months when, the morning after a black-tie dinner and with no warning, she left him.
He told me: "I found out later that because she had been wearing these massive heels, she looked considerably taller than me. And that was the reason she broke it off. One of her friends told her that from behind, it had looked like a mother walking her son to school."
Many of the women's profiles I encountered online included such blunt and bull-headed phrases as "Don't expect a reply if you're under 6ft". "I only date tall men", "The taller the better" and "No short-arses" also cropped up.
What if they were demands being made by men of women's weight? Jemima Wade, of online dating giant eHarmony.co.uk, believes that judging prospective partners on their measurements, rather than other attributes, can only lead to misery.
She says: "Beyond ad hoc aesthetics, the things that glue people together are similar values or beliefs, or a similar sense of humour or same ambitions or dreams. None have height or weight restrictions."
Yet online dating site ayi.com (Are You Interested?) published evidence last year showing that, in the UK, a 6ft man is 33 per cent more likely to be contacted by women on the website than one who is just 5ft 8in. Additionally, women are 77 per cent more likely to spurn the advances of someone beneath the average height of 5ft 9in than a man at 6ft 1in or above.
Perhaps female daters should wise up to their hypocrisy. If it's entirely acceptable to use a measuring tape vertically, then so too should it be acceptable to wield it horizontally. Or maybe it's time we dialled down the outrage caused when asking someone about their weight.
We all have our own idea of physical perfection. And seeing that women aren't beating around the bush in their pursuit of it, why should we?
Jonathan Wells tackles the last dating taboo.
"We all have our own idea of physical perfection. And seeing that women aren't beating around the bush in their pursuit of it, why should we?" Photo / Thinkstock
Last week, I created two online dating profiles. Both had exactly the same name, brief biography and three photographs - except for one small change. In the first, I said I was 5ft 7in; in the second, 6ft 3in.
In reality I stand between 5ft 8in and 5ft 9in. I'm certainly no Andre the Giant, but nor do I consider myself hobbitesque.
Yet it would appear that, for the majority of women, height is a crucial determiner in the search for a partner. My towering alter-ego was "matched" 11 times, while my Lilliputian self received interest from just two women.
A brief search of women's profiles on Tinder tells shorter men what they've long known - taller guys get the girls. Comments include: "If you're under 6ft and live outside zone 2, it probably won't work", "You know what you call boys that are under 6ft? Friends" and "If u arent at least 6'3", I'm not interested".
Even that cliched cornerstone of what women look for in a man, "Tall, dark and handsome", begins with a very heightist requirement. Don't get me wrong, we can't berate women for having "types".
My question is this: why is it acceptable for a woman to shirk away from a shorter man, but when that same man declines the advances of a "larger" woman, he is labelled as a superficial pig?
Height and weight are both measurements. The only practical manner in which they differ is their permanence. A person's height is considerably more fixed than their weight - which makes it all the more unfair to judge.
It's not as if that man can just nip to his local gym or lay off the cake to transform into modern culture's towering image of attractiveness. Women are stipulating superficial demands without fear of retribution.
A friend of mine had a particularly crushing experience. He had been dating a girl who was a little taller than him for around three months when, the morning after a black-tie dinner and with no warning, she left him.
He told me: "I found out later that because she had been wearing these massive heels, she looked considerably taller than me. And that was the reason she broke it off. One of her friends told her that from behind, it had looked like a mother walking her son to school."
Many of the women's profiles I encountered online included such blunt and bull-headed phrases as "Don't expect a reply if you're under 6ft". "I only date tall men", "The taller the better" and "No short-arses" also cropped up.
What if they were demands being made by men of women's weight? Jemima Wade, of online dating giant eHarmony.co.uk, believes that judging prospective partners on their measurements, rather than other attributes, can only lead to misery.
She says: "Beyond ad hoc aesthetics, the things that glue people together are similar values or beliefs, or a similar sense of humour or same ambitions or dreams. None have height or weight restrictions."
Yet online dating site ayi.com (Are You Interested?) published evidence last year showing that, in the UK, a 6ft man is 33 per cent more likely to be contacted by women on the website than one who is just 5ft 8in. Additionally, women are 77 per cent more likely to spurn the advances of someone beneath the average height of 5ft 9in than a man at 6ft 1in or above.
Perhaps female daters should wise up to their hypocrisy. If it's entirely acceptable to use a measuring tape vertically, then so too should it be acceptable to wield it horizontally. Or maybe it's time we dialled down the outrage caused when asking someone about their weight.
We all have our own idea of physical perfection. And seeing that women aren't beating around the bush in their pursuit of it, why should we?
David Kronenbourg
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Used to see this shit all the time: Many of the women's profiles I encountered online included such blunt and bull-headed phrases as "Don't expect a reply if you're under 6ft". "I only date tall men", "The taller the better" and "No short-arses" also cropped up.
I'd call out someone on that bullshit, and you should too.
Not that it'll make a difference, it's not like being constantly called out on it for years has ever stopped these lads from their " no fat chicks" policy.
Not that it'll make a difference, it's not like being constantly called out on it for years has ever stopped these lads from their " no fat chicks" policy.
David Kronenbourg
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Yeah, but if you start calling out people who have never contacted you on dating websites because you don’t like the rubbish they write on their profile then you are a weird crank, no?
hahaha, I meant if it was a mate in real life or something! On a dating website it's clearly just a good early indicator that they're not worth your time.
David Kronenbourg
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exactly.
Women can be insufferable pricks too!
Well anyway, is there a height arms race going on on these websites? Where everyone assumes everyone is lying and if you say you're 6'1" it actually means around 5'8" ?
Well anyway, is there a height arms race going on on these websites? Where everyone assumes everyone is lying and if you say you're 6'1" it actually means around 5'8" ?
I was specifically told NOT to say that I would only be interested in meeting women 5'6" and taller (when I actually wanted to put 5'8") as I would look like a colossal tool.
I suppose men don't get to take chances to offend women on these websites since there's so many already on there acting like/being sex offenders. If you get all the other guys to sort themselves out you may add this to your profile.
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