I find it odd when people my age have kids (2 Viewers)

[IFF]

i wonder how common it is. I am 24 and i have no interest in becoming a parent

when i hear about someone who i went to school with or someone in a year ahead of me, i alwyas have the thinking, "fuck, that is very young to be having kids. they're only my age". it's just something i find hard to get my head around

if i hear from someone that they will be a father or a mother, i don't know whether to congratuluate them or offer my condolenses

is this a common feeling for someone my own age?

 

[HMD]

i felt like that until about 3 years ago

 

[broken arm]

sure you're only a babby yourself

 

[Dktr. Faustus]

you're a freak

 

[Super Dexta]

I am 24 going on 25 and I would no more willingly have kids than I would eat my own foot.
A girl who was three years behind me in school is married with two kids and by all accounts is happy out. Can't fathom it myself but there you go.

 

[Reets]

I think it's young to be having kids, but then I had my daughter when i was 19. guess i missed out on a lot of things especially as i was in a soul crushing id-rather-die-then-go-through-that-again relationship and lost all of my then friends as they thought my having a new born baby and going to college wasn't a good enough reason to not hang out all the time.
I still think i made the right decision, she's an amazing though slightly mad person who loves me unconditionally, pretty sweet.

 

[Diddles]

I found it odd too until I had a kid myself. And I was thirty four when I had HMB.

Nowadays I find it odd when someone says they're going to have a second one.

 

[wild_cat]

I find it odd. It really REALLY scares me. Enniscorthy had a bit of a baby boom after my year did the leaving cert so hearing such and such is pregnant doesnt really shock me anymore, just can't understand why they couldnt buy condoms. Only one of the babies was planned.

The planned one I cant understand at all... why like.. she was 18 and had no way of funding it etc....

 

[Goodbye]

Can you apply for funding?

 

[Diddles]

When they start means testing the children's allowance after the next budget, we'll all be finding it odd when someone says they're having a baby.

 

[Goodbye]

Sure this is it

 

[Diddles]

I wasn't going to have any more anyway. He needs to be an only child if he's going to take over the world.

 

[Froog]

i have no kids......that i know of!!!!!! ho ho lolol etc.

 

[maims bond]

Diddles, Rita....how much pain is involved? Seriously, is it any worse then when a man gets a tap in the testicles?

 

[Froog]

i'd say its like opening a stubborn jam jar. girls wouldn't be familiar with that though.

 

[maims bond]

i'd say its like opening a stubborn jam jar. girls wouldn't be familiar with that though.

Men FTW!

 

[Reets]

Yeah it's pretty bad, but i slept through most of it so by the time I got to the hospital it was too late for pain killers. they took the gas off me for offering it around the room saying "this is some really good shit, anyone want some?".

 

[Milker]

when i hear about someone who i went to school with or someone in a year ahead of me, i alwyas have the thinking, "fuck, that is very young to be having kids. they're only my age".

Philip Larkin had no kids

Dockery and Son

'Dockery was junior to you,
Wasn't he?' said the Dean. 'His son's here now.'
Death-suited, visitant, I nod. 'And do
You keep in touch with-' Or remember how
Black-gowned, unbreakfasted, and still half-tight
We used to stand before that desk, to give
'Our version' of 'these incidents last night'?
I try the door of where I used to live:

Locked. The lawn spreads dazzlingly wide.
A known bell chimes. I catch my train, ignored.
Canal and clouds and colleges subside
Slowly from view. But Dockery, good Lord,
Anyone up today must have been born
In '43, when I was twenty-one.
If he was younger, did he get this son
At nineteen, twenty? Was he that withdrawn

High-collared public-schoolboy, sharing rooms
With Cartwright who was killed? Well, it just shows
How much . . . How little . . . Yawning, I suppose
I fell asleep, waking at the fumes
And furnace-glares of Sheffield, where I changed,
And ate an awful pie, and walked along
The platform to its end to see the ranged
Joining and parting lines reflect a strong

Unhindered moon. To have no son, no wife,
No house or land still seemed quite natural.
Only a numbness registered the shock
Of finding out how much had gone of life,
How widely from the others. Dockery, now:
Only nineteen, he must have taken stock
Of what he wanted, and been capable
Of . . . No, that's not the difference: rather, how

Convinced he was he should be added to!
Why did he think adding meant increase?
To me it was dilution. Where do these
Innate assumptions come from? Not from what
We think truest, or most want to do:
Those warp tight-shut, like doors. They're more a style
Our lives bring with them: habit for a while,
Suddenly they harden into all we've got

And how we got it; looked back on, they rear
Like sand-clouds, thick and close, embodying
For Dockery a son, for me nothing,
Nothing with all a son's harsh patronage.
Life is first boredom, then fear.
Whether or not we use it, it goes,
And leaves what something hidden from us chose,
And age, and then the only end of age.

Philip Larkin


we just had our second. happily diluted

 

[IFF]

cheers,

the reason i was asking was becuase at work, a colleague was talking about a person involved in the local football club and mentioned he had a girlfriend and a kid. the guy was in the same year as me in secondary school so i said what i said in the opening post and people looked at me as if i had said something crazy.

believe me, i know the look when people think i've said something crazy

i'm very happy with my life (apart from still living at home) and don't need anything getting in the way of happiness.

 

[Doctor Muscles]

Find it odd when people my age have a car. I'm all "ooh look at mister responsibility..."
People having babies just sends my head spinning.



I'm twenty fucking six.