Janer
Well-Known Member
Yeah right.
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ok, since everyone else would rather make in-jokes and comments about turning lezzers straight (woo-arrgh) and the vagaries of stephen doyle, i'll introduce some issues.
problems i've had with male sexual behaviour:
sense of entitlement to intercourse
selfishness with regard to orgasm
irritating objectification (aka grabbing, sense of ownership of woman)
patronising attitude to concerns of woman - e.g. you don't want to do what i want, therefore you're repressed/boring/unadventurous (aka i'm annoyed you won't let me ride you up the arse).
can we talk about this, or is it less urgent than discussions of pop songs and crass line-ups?
They were the pages I was talking about, s. Reading it again I can see I went overboard. It's clearly a list of traits to look out for and not the 'spot the potential rapist article' I somehow remembered. I definitely think that using this list as a strict basis for deciding who is safe to hang out with will mean being a living the life of a hermit in Dublin, but there isn't anywhere to suggest that anyone should.
What I remembered from the article was that it suggested that people with occasional mood swings, who would dole out slags, take drugs and binge drink could possibly be a rapist. This would mean I'd have to dump most of my mates! But as I said, it's not like it's trying to be a definitive guide.
I've been too harsh on the whole piece though. I'm still not mad about it, but so what. I hope everyone involved can see where I'm coming from and also see I wasn't trying to belittle RAG and what it stands for but just trying to tackle a very sensitive matter in a very insensitive way, which is how I nearly always do things!
I can sum up 21st century life as a guy in the Western world for you - it's grand; it has its ups and downs, its benefits and its shortfalls. I appreciate life for women is different. I don't think there's a need for a zine collective to explore male issues because I don't think it's something male readers would find essential reading. If it was an appealing read to women then they'd be misled by the articles simply because most men would be nothing like the little emo-boy who wrote it!
In one of my job's a female client tried to sexually molest me, what was the reaction of my peers, colleagues and manager, to laugh it off, then they asked me to write an equality policy, I refused, stating that when the exact (and i mean exact) same thing had happened to a female staff member the client was removed from the building and barred. I however was made feel weak and pathetic for being anyway upset about the situation.
basically all i'm saying is that vast generalisations on what men do or what women do are just fucking stupid and retarded
It'll be interesting to see what issues the male RAG will cover or if it is more of a solidarity group. Will it have fighting, building and hunting guides or will it have a tutorial on being sensitive? :b
The gender expectation thing isn't just crap for women. It's mostly men who end up homless and in prison. It's mostly men who end up getting the lard beaten out of them on the street. Men suffer unreasonable and unfair expectations because of their gender too (sexual prowess, physical strength, money etc). I think a male collective/magazine would have shit loads to look at and shit loads to talk about that they mightn't feel comfortable discussing in the presence of women.
Feminism/adressing gender inequality is for everybody dudes.
Hey Ed, that's pretty fucked up. It's a horrible thing to happen and sounds like your bosses handled it quite badly. I've been in the same situation and it's poxy. I don't mean to depersonalise your situation, but I think it illustrates the fact that there clearly is a problem with the concept and expectations of 'maleness' in Western societies, even when you're a victim of this shit. You're supposed to either be a man and enjoy it because men LOVE sex regardless of what form it takes, or because you're a man and should be able to stand up for yourself.
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I totally agree, but RAG isn't for everybody and doesn't pretend to be.Buzzo said:Feminism/adressing gender inequality is for everybody dudes.
No, wait. How about a magazine about how Irish life has changed with the influx of immigrants except that immigrants can't contribute. That's a way harsher example so I'll stick with that.Similarly I wouldn't buy a magazine which explores the issue of economic migrants in Ireland if Irish people weren't allowed to contribute; not a fantastic example but close enough I think.
No, wait. How about a magazine about how Irish life has changed with the influx of immigrants except that immigrants can't contribute. That's a way harsher example so I'll stick with that.
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