Meeting People (4 Viewers)

[ernesto]

The trick is to learn to like some of those that hit on you. Much much easier than actually getting good at chatting people up or going down that whole faux disinterest charade rabbit-hole.

Fuck that. Learning to like some of those that hit on you is the exact same as the whole faux interest rabbit hole charade.
Just get better at chatting up.


The trouble I find, is that I can get on great with anyone, be a bit flirty but as soon as I realise
'oh actually, I'm chatting to a really pretty girl and, if I'm not mistaken, it appears to be not going shit, I should do something more like ask her out or for a number or something'
is the point where I suddenly trip up all of my words, mumble something / lob the gob / accidentally spill her drink or something else pathetic, and usually make a tit out of myself.

I'm still terrible at it but I've definitely improved.

 

[therealjohnny]

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[Jill Hives]

I remember back in the day when I was young and good-looking I got hit on a lot by girls but I never wanted any of those girls. I used to ask out the girls I did want and they always said no to me.

FUCKING EXPLAIN THAT ONE THUMPED

I spent most of my (skinny & cute) 20s dating my platonic non-passionate best friend. Woke up. Broke up. Then proceeded to spend my 30s hung up on someone who had no interest in me. Meanwhile, consciously and sometimes subconsciously dismissing anyone who showed any interest. I've been ignoring most men for 20 years. Go me. I'm an idiot.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

are you going to post a link later or do we have to google him for ourselves?

rdrr

 

[Jill Hives]

I can totally see that.

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

I can totally see that.

Please feel free to post any other 54 fucking year olds I look like

 

[David Kronenbourg]

can we get a picture of @7 - No tomorrow so we can make a comparison?

 

[7 - No tomorrow]

can we get a picture of @7 - No tomorrow so we can make a comparison?

We can effing not

 

[тхеодоре кацзынски]

Ah go on.

 

[hermie]

Fuck that. Learning to like some of those that hit on you is the exact same as the whole faux interest rabbit hole charade.
Just get better at chatting up.


The trouble I find, is that I can get on great with anyone, be a bit flirty but as soon as I realise
'oh actually, I'm chatting to a really pretty girl and, if I'm not mistaken, it appears to be not going shit, I should do something more like ask her out or for a number or something'
is the point where I suddenly trip up all of my words, mumble something / lob the gob / accidentally spill her drink or something else pathetic, and usually make a tit out of myself.

I'm still terrible at it but I've definitely improved.

How is it the same thing? You refuse to take part in a very silly little game and are smart and un-neurotic enough to know a good thing when you see it. As opposed to the romantic notion of the challenge, which essentially boils down to bending yourself and/or somebody else to fit a more benign paradigm - an ideology borne out of several centuries of fanciful fiction stretching back to Jane Austen which has left us all with idiotic ideals on how a relationship is supposed to blossom.

On the second part of your post, precisely why I love living vicariously through you! Does wishing you never have another long-term girlfriend make me a bad friend?

 

[David Kronenbourg]

How is it the same thing? You refuse to take part in a very silly little game and are smart and un-neurotic enough to know a good thing when you see it. As opposed to the romantic notion of the challenge, which essentially boils down to bending yourself and/or somebody else to fit a more benign paradigm - an ideology borne out of several centuries of fanciful fiction stretching back to Jane Austen which has left us all with idiotic ideals on how a relationship is supposed to blossom.

On the second part of your post, precisely why I love living vicariously through you! Does wishing you never have another long-term girlfriend make me a bad friend?

Hermie talks sense

 

[Lili Marlene]

Some woman tried to pick me up at a banklink a while back. It was very flattering and if I didn't have a girlfriend I would have went along with it, at least for a drink... at which point i'm sure it would have all fallen apart. She was, of course, American.

(Oh and yeah, she was probably just trying to rob me)

 

[rettucs]

The trick is to learn to like some of those that hit on you. Much much easier than actually getting good at chatting people up or going down that whole faux disinterest charade rabbit-hole.

thats solid advice.

but its about 10 years too late. Cheers though.

if only I could do it all over....

 

[Denny Oubidoux]

I never get chatted up. Probably because I never go out and when I do I avoid social contact with strangers.

 

[Lili Marlene]

Ah I was still in my 20's back then, it'll never happen again. Them glory days of 2013.

 

[Lili Marlene]

My other piece of dating advice is to hang around banklinks.

 

[Reets]

Yeah that seems to work for homeless men.

 

[Lili Marlene]

dress like this while doing it?

 

[ernesto]

How is it the same thing? You refuse to take part in a very silly little game and are smart and un-neurotic enough to know a good thing when you see it. As opposed to the romantic notion of the challenge, which essentially boils down to bending yourself and/or somebody else to fit a more benign paradigm - an ideology borne out of several centuries of fanciful fiction stretching back to Jane Austen which has left us all with idiotic ideals on how a relationship is supposed to blossom.

On the second part of your post, precisely why I love living vicariously through you! Does wishing you never have another long-term girlfriend make me a bad friend?

'Learning' to like someone?
I might like talking to them but if there's no spark or some physical attraction, I don't think that can be learned, so to speak. Sounds like trying to force a friendship or aquuatance(ship?) beyond the limits of something platonic.
That's how it's very similar to faux rabbit holing, to me. Am I making sense?

I'm not going to bend who I am to try like someone or to get them to like me, Just because the ridings good.
that's for idiots. And I for one have been there.
If they don't like who you are, what's the point anyway sure.

That date I had got rescheduled for this Saturday by the way. I know you were dying for the details for vicariously living through me.

 

[Reets]

We all are.