smallbrownbear said:so what now? well i guess that's what i'm trying to decide.
1. do i contact him to tell him again, that i don't want any contact
and this way risk opening up a bigger can o worms
2. or do i just keep track of his contact and maybe take the legal route
Change your number and tell him if he doesnt stop you'll report him to the Guards. If he doesnt stop, actually report it to the Guards. They thankfully take these things alot more seriously these days. Keep a record of when he contacts you and get a new sim so you can keep the old one as evidence
it all came to a head last easter and i firmly let him know [in writing] i did not want any contact with him. after one or two more dodgy attempts at connecting with me, which i have duly ignored, this seems to have worked.
since then, i've heard from a reliable type, that the guy has moved to near where i live [though i'm sure this is coincidence]. thing is, i feel a lot more resilient, and i hope i'm better prepared for bumping into him.
ahhh shux, thanks janey mackers
twas well scary last year - looking back at my email i can see how freaked out i had become over it all. it was keeping me awake nights and i'd got to the stage where i was screening calls in work and altering my routes to and from work etc. i'm a VERY sensible and private type, and i'm no alarmist by any means. the email on thumped was me at my wits end trying to get other objective perspectives so i could benchmark things. i didn't want to go into too much detail on the board so the info i gave was tip of the ice berg stuff really, much more serious incidents had happened. it helped that other people pm'ed me and let me know that i wasn't alone in this. worryingly, some people had much more frightening stories to tell me.
That's the sense that I got, though, that you were trying to remain calm in a situation that was much scarier than you could say on the internet, or even maybe to people you know in 'real life'. Very often people find it difficult to believe that these situations are real and that they happen to normal people who never asked to be sucked into them, and this can make an already horrible situation feel even worse. I'm glad Thumped could be some comfort for you.
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