- Apr 22, 2009
Hmmmmm. I don't know. I think its like... I don't want to sound like a dope, but part of a culture of entitlement, and even though may seem harmless they all come from the same place? the same issue and problem, of feeling like the fact that you may feel its ok or harmless to approach someone in a situation, your feelings aren't paramount. Like, do I, when it comes down to it, think every guy that talks to a girl on the street is wrong for doing so? Not exactly, no.. but I do think, to reference the cartoon 7 posted, that its all coming from a harmful place of feeling like women walk through a male controlled landscape, not just on the streets but on a whole, and that they're open for comment / to engage in that way. We just don't get a lot of control in those situations, so differentiating between why someone is approaching you or the manner in which they're doing it, is less the issue...Do you think it's one of those situations where outrage usually goes towards the wrong person. Some creep follow's you in the street and you're scared and so say nothing and then some guy says "have a nice day" unsolicited and you explode with rage ? Or do you think that they're both the same thing ?
That may seem like a stupid question. It probably is. But I'm not being facetious. Honestly.
I mean men do that all the time, half the time it's why your poor skinny innocent mate gets battered outside pub. Misplaced outrage.
Just to say though, I'm not saying that following a woman home and saying "good morning miss" are the same thing, i'm really not, its just that I think all of these varying degrees of situations are coming from a similar harmful place.
i think there's loads of issues in feminist discourse that people are talking about right now, and lots of them perpetrated by genuinely harmless people, and i honestly feel like a lot of it IS because the guy in question just doesn't know better, or hasn't considered that whats important surely, is not always their intention but how it makes the woman feel. the thing is because we deal with it everyday, that one action does become part of a larger picture, so thats how we feel when it happens.
i'm bad at sticking to a train of thought so ive no idea if ive actually answered this at all.