After a year of absolute hell EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT., we did 2 nights of controlled crying and it solved the problem almost completely.
If it had taken any longer than that we would have caved, because I can honestly say it's one of the hardest things I've ever done.
edit: I'd also take issue with the La Leche statement that "There is no way of knowing if, when babies stop crying, they have fallen asleep or have simply gone into a "withdrawn" state where they have given up hope of being responded to" because there is a way of knowing - it's called an infrared video monitor and I highly recommend getting one.
Secondly, I doubt babies have the mental capacity to "give up hope" on anything, and framing their behaviour as such, or the the bellybelly claim that "They have learned not to bother calling for help with their discomfort, because no-one will come or comfort them anyway" is just manipulative "you're a terribly parent if you do this" nonsense.
If it had taken any longer than that we would have caved, because I can honestly say it's one of the hardest things I've ever done.
edit: I'd also take issue with the La Leche statement that "There is no way of knowing if, when babies stop crying, they have fallen asleep or have simply gone into a "withdrawn" state where they have given up hope of being responded to" because there is a way of knowing - it's called an infrared video monitor and I highly recommend getting one.
Secondly, I doubt babies have the mental capacity to "give up hope" on anything, and framing their behaviour as such, or the the bellybelly claim that "They have learned not to bother calling for help with their discomfort, because no-one will come or comfort them anyway" is just manipulative "you're a terribly parent if you do this" nonsense.
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