it is the thing i find that unless it is otherwise known, people make an assumption that a person is heterosexual or binary gender and not any of the many many different gender identification or sexual orientations there are with the at a wedding thing "you're next" or " so when are you going to settle down and have children"
My local is a mostly gay bar where the banter is fairly robust. The line of appropriateness gets stepped on fairly often. That's the kind of gag that would work there.
I'm probably guilty of stepping over the line at times.
Everyone's just looking for a laugh though.
I can usually tell the difference between a hateful potato or whiskey dick joke and one that's not.