that's often cited as one of the reasons people find value in alternative therapy, is that can what make the difference is not so much the therapy, but being taken seriously by someone with a sympathetic ear.
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that's often cited as one of the reasons people find value in alternative therapy, is that can what make the difference is not so much the therapy, but being taken seriously by someone with a sympathetic ear.
Lads, I highly recommend actual therapy for anyone who's struggling with any kind of blues. I kinda lost my shit a bit at the end of lockdown number 1, and then Mrs. egg_ got sick, and then the eldest kinda started to lose her shit too. Asked the GP for a recommendation, found a therapist right in the village, and she was great - really helped me sort my head out and deal with Mrs. egg_'s illness and the child's teenage crisis. Plus it's actually kinda fun to sit and talk at length about yourself for ages, and have someone who's not already sick of listening to your shit actually pay close attention. A few times I was in a session and just was overwhelmed with a profound feeling of relief, and I feel much better able deal with myself now. 5 stars
Lads, I highly recommend actual therapy for anyone who's struggling with any kind of blues. I kinda lost my shit a bit at the end of lockdown number 1, and then Mrs. egg_ got sick, and then the eldest kinda started to lose her shit too. Asked the GP for a recommendation, found a therapist right in the village, and she was great - really helped me sort my head out and deal with Mrs. egg_'s illness and the child's teenage crisis. Plus it's actually kinda fun to sit and talk at length about yourself for ages, and have someone who's not already sick of listening to your shit actually pay close attention. A few times I was in a session and just was overwhelmed with a profound feeling of relief, and I feel much better able deal with myself now. 5 stars
Lads, I highly recommend actual therapy for anyone who's struggling with any kind of blues. I kinda lost my shit a bit at the end of lockdown number 1, and then Mrs. egg_ got sick, and then the eldest kinda started to lose her shit too. Asked the GP for a recommendation, found a therapist right in the village, and she was great - really helped me sort my head out and deal with Mrs. egg_'s illness and the child's teenage crisis. Plus it's actually kinda fun to sit and talk at length about yourself for ages, and have someone who's not already sick of listening to your shit actually pay close attention. A few times I was in a session and just was overwhelmed with a profound feeling of relief, and I feel much better able deal with myself now. 5 stars
I’d also recommend the whole counselling thing too. But like @Unicron said, not every therapist is suitable. I’ve been to 2 different ones. 1st one was not good. 2nd one was excellent and really helped. That’s been my experienceJust to say, I've been doing similar for a few years now. It's been transformational for me, one of the best things I've ever done.
That being said, therapy isn't for everyone, and not every therapist will suit everyone who might benefit from therapy.
Sometimes people are better off on meds, or a combination of both.
I go running a fair bit. I listen to punk tunes when I’m running alone so I don’t get bored. I’ve also got a handful of people from my old job that I meet up with regularly for runs so that’s good. So yeah, I’d recommend running.Re. loneliness, I think it can result from self-isolation as a result a combination of a few things that gather together at a specific age, for guys especially:
The problem as I see it is you can address 2. with exercise but that leads to 1. being harder to combat (e.g. going for a run is boring, sorry runners). The way I address 3. is I go to bed. But will I sleep? Then you're back at 2. Plus with kids and that, all this becomes difficult to manage.
- Being bored - working for the man, let's face it. Even if you quite like it. Less time for creative stuff or whatever you're into.
- Tiredness - definitely feeds into the blues. Your quality of sleep suffers as you get older, no doubt about it. Exercise can help. As the evening progresses you get tireder and tireder.
- The blues that you can control - I don't think this is depression but definitely feeds into it. You could call this a selfish desire to feel sorry for yourself, the whole 'nobody loves me' thing, which is actually a kind of indulgence, gets you into a spiral of isolation. I'm not saying it's not warranted, but I reckon it's definitely a thing and can lead to the blues you can't control when combined with self-isolation.
It's a shame that men almost actively avoid socialisation, and that's definitely a factor too. And it's not just about hanging out with other guys either. Men and women stop hanging out together as well as they get older. Not good.
Anyway, hope you all feel better, pricks! You too @Scientician 0.8
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Having said that, you’re right about the tiredness thing. Energy levels definitely are not the same as you get older. I’ve had a busy week this week between working, meeting friends and doing stuff with the kids. I’m completely bolloxed now, spent a fair bit of today dosing on the couchYeah I run a bit too. It's grand.
I find running pretty boring, but skipping (with a skipping rope) while pounding loud music is fun, for me at least. Also I've done a couple of courses of online dancing lessons, which is also kinda fun (fun for a couples too).Yeah I run a bit too. It's grand.
... and I find if I go on a non-boring run (non-boring cos I'm actively thinking of something else while I'm doing it) then I'm likely to overdo it and injure myself. Hobbling around with sore knees atm cos I did this last weekI find running pretty boring
One of my brother’s joined a tennis club out his neck of the woods and loves it.I find running pretty boring, but skipping (with a skipping rope) while pounding loud music is fun, for me at least. Also I've done a couple of courses of online dancing lessons, which is also kinda fun (fun for a couples too).
There's a tennis club nearby, was half thinking of taking that up. Maybe the social-ness of it would make it fun? I know fuck all about tennis, except for watching wimbledon as a child
... and I find if I go on a non-boring run (non-boring cos I'm actively thinking of something else while I'm doing it) then I'm likely to overdo it and injure myself. Hobbling around with sore knees atm cos I did this last week
Same here. That combined with Wordle has been keeping me in contact with people I possibly wouldn’t have otherwiseI'd like to give a *shout-out* to Whatsapp as it is genuinely a loneliness killer for me. I have a good mate who moved to finland years ago, but we talk shit every day over whatsapp. Same deal with a couple of friends from school who I would have lost contact with years ago without it.
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